Words Matter

My generation gets the majority of their information from social media sites instead of books and actual life experiences. This would be fine if people took the time to actually learn about topics, read full articles from original sources, and make their own conclusions through researching multiple perspectives. Most of the time though, they do not take the time to do that and it is becoming increasingly evident in their lifestyles. We settle for “what meets the eye” as the truth, presented to us by biased media sources. We’ll take the time to retweet the opinion of an actor we like because they might have been in one of our favorite movies. That qualifies them to only make credible unbiased statements, right? We refuse to delve deeper beyond what is noncontroversial to the majority and those things that provide us with fleeting feelings of happiness. Words and their meaning matter and the context in which they are used matters as well. No matter what you believe, it is important to distance yourself from comfort so that you can clearly and objectively see the absolute truth.

This is why it is important to understand what you support, especially with all of the issues we are facing today. Pro-“choice” sounds comfortable and safe. Obviously “pro-mutilation of children in the womb” wouldn’t work as well for the leftists agenda, although Hillary has no qualms with letting babies that survive botched abortions die outside the womb. So does the left actually consider them children when they leave the womb or is it just whenever it is convenient for them? What is convenient is usually selfish. This applies to every thought, action, and belief that we have. When I buy new clothes I do not really need, with money I could have given to help others, selfishness. When I avoid volunteering or going to Mass to watch television, selfishness. Selfishness is the root of all sin and evil. I know we want life to be relaxing, easy and fun all of the time. The Devil knows that, too. That is why I have found in life that I am the most depressed and have the most anxiety when I am dwelling in self-pity or self-indulgence. I have been my happiest when putting others before myself and resisting the urge to feed my ego. Pride blinds you from truth and makes you deem what you “want” as what is “right”. Unfortunately many people continue to believe that what brings you comfort and pleasure should be associated with the right way to live. I call that sleeping through life.

It is difficult to wake up to what is going on in the world around you, to look beyond yourself. And not just when it is easy. This means putting people first even when those people don’t deserve it in our eyes. We are all unworthy and recognizing we are all flawed is how we can truly accept and love one another and ourselves. There are things you naturally want in life but that does not mean you should always have it. Being a parent is one of the best ways to realize that, by putting your children first and also teaching them that they cannot always get what they want. If you let yourself have what you want all of the time then it will lose value and purpose to you. Sex is often seen as something we “deserve” to have and people say that it is natural need. Yes, sex is natural but is meant to create life. When it is twisted to feed selfishness, it loses its sacredness. Taking away that sacredness is makes it easier to abort a child when they do not fit into a selfish plan. Even with ample amounts of birth control available, people are having sex and getting pregnant. If you want to live a selfish lifestyle then that is a choice you can make, but it is absolutely disgusting to kill innocent children because you are so selfishly absorbed with yourself.

Feminists claim to be pro-women? All I see are insecure women trying to be more like immature men and then hating on mature men that call them out on it. Liberals and abortion clinics claim to be about women’s health and having control of their bodies but refuse to acknowledge the mental and physical detriment it inflicts on those same women and their bodies. I will never support that. I’m sorry, liberal women, that you have such hatred for women who actually take responsibility for their actions.

C.S. Lewis said, “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.”

Humility. What a concept. Pride and selfishness are the opposite of humility and patience which are sacred virtues we should all hope to acquire. Society tells you that your mistakes shouldn’t define the rest of your life. An unplanned pregnancy is not a mistake, it is a realistic possibility when you choose to have sex. Having a child is a life-altering experience but being an adult is accepting responsibility and true acceptance is people allowing you to know your options in that situation. The selfless choice is to have the baby and keep it or give it to a family. It is not the easy decision but it is the one resulting from true love. Be aware of your decisions and do for others more than you do for yourself. I promise you will feel more fulfilled than you ever did taking the path that seemed easy. Be smart and refuse to settle, dig deeper and always try to acquire more knowledge. Your faith will be ridiculed and even mocked as a security blanket to hide behind. It is the absolute opposite. Faith is living the truth no matter the consequences. It is much easier to create your own morals than to live by absolute truths. Christianity calls you to put Him before yourself just as Jesus selflessly laid down his life for us.

“I didn’t go to religion to make me ‘happy’. I always knew a bottle of Port would do that. If you want a religion to make you feel really comfortable, I certainly don’t recommend Christianity”- C.S. Lewis


Less Is More

I got a free Redbox coupon this week and I was not about to waste it on another overly sexualized romcom or possessed child horror film. I found Brooklyn amidst the plethora of B movies and I was not disappointed. It was a beautiful film that was refreshingly wholesome and honest. It delved into a plot that covered everything from opportunity, sacrifice, family, homesickness, grief and of course, love. The difference about this love story is that it did not just centralize around a young man (Tony) and a young woman (Eilis). The story went beyond young love and all its enticements. This movie was so refreshing because very rarely nowadays do we get through a movie that involves romance without the couple’s relationship being oversexualized by the first or second date. The setting is in the 1950’s which is why there is actually “courting” going on. Back in the day, people met naturally and got to no one another through actual dates rather than social media stalking and “hanging out” in each other’s dorm rooms. Not to say that everyone was like that in the 1950’s but overall men were expected to take women on dates, meet each other’s families, and actually invest time getting to know each other as a person and not just as the opposite sex. People may say it is old fashioned, naïve, unrealistic, and frankly boring. Now we go to a Seth Rogen or Amy Schumer “romantic” comedy and the opening scene is comparable to porn. How did it flip so far to the other side so quickly? We took control of our identities and sexual freedom, right? Cheating, divorce, and the misconstruing of lust as love is evidently rampant in our society but hey, those are just the side effects of liberation and aren’t necessarily even considered negative anymore. A woman recently told me that if a woman does not have sex with her husband enough, it gives him a free pass to cheat on her. Sounds degrading and antifeminist, right? Wrong. It is the direct result of feminism. We wanted the sexual equality that men have always had and as they say, be careful what you wish for. Now women’s promiscuity is on the rise, we can take health hazardous pills to not conceive, and we glorify it as progression and freedom. Thanks, feminism. Yikes. Back to the movie. This movie was exemplary not just because of the love story but because of what it showed true love to be. It showed the sacrifice, patience, humility, understanding, and selflessness involved. This is something my generation dismisses as weaknesses and being naïve. We focus on the “feeling” we get from “love” which is actually just us using one another for our own selfish reasons. Love is taking the time to see who another person is, what they are passionate about, how they interact with their family, their morals, and their attitudes on life. Yes, attraction and sex are part of love but it is meant to be between two people devoted to one another wholly, for the rest of their lives. It is for people who want to create a family together. My generation is numb to the absolute miracle of life. When abortion is normalized and legal in America, we forget the beauty of bringing a life into the world. So you can say that we have progressed since the 1950’s. In many ways we have. With technology, equal rights for women and minorities, etc. But in many ways we have progressed into something I think is absolutely terrifying. Brooklyn isn’t the first movie that made me yearn for more of that kind of romance in modern times. Roman Holiday taught me that true love can be simplified into a day of doing what you love with another person. Audrey and Gregory showed me that movies being filmed in the 1950’s still had flirting and sexual humor but it was not overdone and central to the plot. Friendship, integrity, and sacrifice were glorified because they are worth more than the physical parts of a relationship. In The Philadelphia Story, Katharine Hepburn and Cary Grant show us that real love requires loving yourself, acknowledging your own shortcomings, and being vulnerable to another person without fear they will leave you. This is also the main theme in Breakfast at Tiffany’s. I just can’t get enough of old movies, it must be the actual acting and good old storytelling that makes it so unique. It is nice to see such beauty and integrity in this new film Brooklyn, which has had great reviews and is gaining popularity. I feel its success is in part due to our society’s crave for authenticity and examples of how to recognize true love and hold on to it.